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Chris
Hello and welcome to the ending Buddy Burnout show. We are your host, Chris and Phile, co-founders of a multi winning functional medicine practice serving busy people with energy, mood and gut issues.
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Filly
Well, business, addictive doing, people pleasing and perfectionism might be the norm. It's not normal and it's a major contributor to health issues.
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Chris
Our goal with this show is to give you a holistic root root cause approach to healing your body so that you don't have to continue doctor or diet hopping or popping a gazillion supplements hoping something might stick.
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Filly
So get ready to heal your body. Get your spark back deeply, connect with yourself, and step into the life of your dreams.
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Chris
Let's dive in.
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Chris
G'day, and welcome to this episode of The Body Burnout Show. We are excited to bring this episode to you. We're going to be talking a little bit more about some mistakes people make when they rewire the brain. And I think this is going to be really interesting for those of you who, embarking on an important body burnout journey for yourself.
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Chris
Phillip, what else we got coming up in the episode today?
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Filly
Yeah. Sorry. Rewiring the brain. It's a pretty trendy term that people are becoming more and more aware of. It's becoming more prevalent in the health space, which is great. So you might have tried this practice rewiring the brain, trying to change neural pathways so that you can be well and think better thoughts. If you have tried but you haven't had much success, you've probably made one or more of these mistakes.
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Filly
We're going to go over seven of them today, which can block your healing, any results. And or if you've been thinking about adding a rewiring element to your health journey, this episode is going to save you a lot of load of time and money and energy so that you can rewire in a way that actually works. And by the way, if you want to go deeper on this topic, we're running a free live coaching week in Uber called Rewire Your Brain to Heal from Body Burnout.
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Filly
I in the show notes, we've got a link where you can register. It is free. On the first day we're going to look at brain inflammation. It's actually hard to rewire an inflamed brain and what to do about it. Day two we're going to look into your patterns. So sometimes see if we can just do rewire practices that they might have found on a course or on the internet.
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Filly
A taking those practices off. But rewiring the brain practices can be a band aid if you're not actually looking at deeper patterns in wounds stuck in your unconscious mind. And then day three, we're going to look at rewiring pain signals. So how to create new neural pathways of safety and essentially switch off symptoms.
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Chris
So thank you so much for joining us for this episode. Stick around. We look forward to sharing this content with you.
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Filly
Yes. So let's dig in first. What does it actually mean to rewire the brain? Sometimes people use the term retraining your brain, rewiring your brain. Very similar things. Essentially, they mean to create new neural pathways in your brain. So the human brain evolves over time, and it's building all these different neural pathways to anything that we do. Any thought that we have, any feeling, any action, even physical and mental health symptoms, neural pathways.
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Filly
And the brain's really efficient. So it gets very, clever at creating shortcuts, which is why neural pathways are created so that the brain experiences something. And then it's like, this is what we do. And the neural pathway since the, the communication signal down to the part of the brain or to the thoughts or to the emotions to experience that thing, the wiring of neurones is happening all the time.
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Filly
Every thought that you have, every belief, every perception, every sensation that you have, creates a neural pathway. And if this thing is repeated, it's it creates a strong neural pathway. So a really concrete example of that would be a baby learning to walk. And you little baby learning to walk hasn't yet created neural pathways to know how to walk or turned on automatically over time as the baby practices and gets better at that, that soft neural pathway becomes a hard neural pathway and it becomes a autonomic response.
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Filly
The child doesn't even have to think about how to walk. It just walks. From a health perspective, this can show up with something like any symptom really. But I'll use an example of a food sensitivity. So you might have back in the day being able to eat gluten or the gluten, the bread, the cookies, the cakes, the pastries, no issues.
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Filly
And then all of a sudden, over time, you're starting to become more and more sensitive to it. now highly likely. Again, I won't go too much into why you are now gluten sensitive. There's probably gut health components to it. There's probably all sorts of metaphysical things going on as well. But when you start developing a chronic symptom, it will start off as a soft neural pathway.
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Filly
First it's like, oh, you might have ate gluten, and you also had, a flu or an infection at the same time. And then all of a sudden the brain is like, ooh, gluten is dangerous now. Oh, okay. So every time we eat gluten, we have to get faster and faster at sending pain to the body because the brain thinks that we're in danger.
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Filly
And that's why how chronic health issues can form over time. So rewiring your brain involves practices that guide your brain to start making new neural pathways that will lead to healthy thoughts, healthy behaviours, and rewire the way your brain is sending pagan signals to the body. So essentially, we're rewiring new neural pathways so that the brain is no longer sending signals to the body to create a symptom, whether that's bloating, heartburn, headaches, chronic pain, fatigue.
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Filly
And a big part of this is quieting down the limbic system and the amygdala, part of the brain. So this part of the brain is naturally wired for danger. It's so important. It's part of our evolution. It keeps it's trying to keep us safe. And it does keep us safe. So that amygdala will fire. If you're about to pick up a snake, or you touch your hand in a hot plate and you burn yourself, it will send the signal that you're in danger.
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Filly
You need to get out. In chronic health issues. The amygdala is on fire. It gets stuck in fight flight. It is very loud. It is very activated, and it's constantly sending danger signals to the body.
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Filly
So rewiring the brain is super important and can be a missing piece to someone's healing journey. And it has a really big connection with body burnout as well. So body burnout is a brain issue. Body burnout is a chronic stress is issue. Body burnout is a fight. Flight response issue. So it's absolutely connected to the brain and the nervous system and neural pathways.
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Filly
Now also patterns of burnout. so patterns of burnout. We see people running busy patterns, people pleasing patterns, perfectionism, overdoing patterns. You have created neural pathways. If you as someone who identifies with those patterns, not identifying as that pattern, just you have them currently you have created neural pathways that continue to fire this way of being. So, for example, you see your to do list and you think that if you don't get it done before the end of the day, the whole world is going to fall apart.
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Filly
Now it's kind of like catastrophizing type thinking, but over time, these patterns become, more entrenched in the in who you are being. And so therefore you can rewire these patterns to help you get into a calm and healing state so your body can actually heal.
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Chris
This is really interesting. We were having a conversation just before we press record, about one of our daughters. And you remember and I'll saying, this is this is really irritating me. It's really frustrating. And, and you have a completely different viewpoint on it. You had a different experience of her. And, and then you said, must this sounds like it's a you problem, which is, which is kind of out, like.
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Filly
Come back, come back.
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Chris
It's our favourite come back.
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Filly
Our reality check.
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Chris
And and well it really is frustration with others is frustration with yourself is a frame that we, we found useful. and so then it's just like, all right, well, hang on. Why why do I have a problem with this? Like, I literally actually said that out loud. not expecting Philly to say anything, but but more myself to to think about.
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Chris
It's like, why do I have a problem with this? Why is this an issue for me? and then going into say, all right, why is this dangerous for me? I might not necessarily say my my nine year old is danger is a danger to me, but my nervous system really can't tell the difference between a, a psycho playing gridiron coming to knock my head off, and feeling unsafe in that way.
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Chris
A psycho that I, hang out with and love and joy. I love gridiron anyway. And a nine year old. My nervous system can't tell the difference. So my system is unsafe. Which leads to fear and frustration and annoyance and snappy ness. And a big grumpy dad, saying things that that are, unnecessary, unkind and and not not being the best version of myself taking the low road.
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Chris
You know, it's all because I make this mean something about me. And. And so my nervous system is, fight. Flight tapped into fight. Usually we get into arguments. My daughter and I. Because my whole system isn't safe. And so there's stories in there.
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Filly
Yeah. Which is a neural pathway. Yeah. And so, so I think you brought that example up because my perception of her when you said you came out before we did this recording, it's like, oh.
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Chris
Don't say name.
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Filly
What are we going to do about this person? And I'm like, what do you mean? It's like, why are you making these, like, noises? And I'm like, I think she's cute and sweet and kind and lovely. I just like, think she's cute. So we're having two different experiences. So our experience was already have two different types of neural pathways created in our being.
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Filly
And they can be flipped and they can be rewired and rewritten. So so. And then when you can do that so, if something's currently triggering you and it's a you issue, not an outside issue, which you know, is is a new issue. then you can rewire those pathways so that you're no longer triggered against that, which is cool.
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Chris
Yeah.
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Filly
And that that's also goes into deeper beliefs as well. So beliefs are also neural pathways. Everyone has them. And you have identity unconscious core beliefs. We riff on about this all the time because it is a deep root root cause of body burnout. I'm not good enough. I'm unlovable, I'm undeserving. And over time, when someone like a child creates that belief about themselves, where sense making creatures.
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Filly
So we're collecting more and more and more and more evidence for these beliefs over the years, which means that you've created really strong neural pathways about these beliefs, which keep you stuck in a fight flight, as if the tiger's always chasing you. It's unsafe to be you. It's unsafe for you to be in this world. And so again, these beliefs, neural pathways can be rewired, and major symptoms of body burn out.
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Filly
So we're talking about this. I'm like, why are we talking about this, connection between rewiring the brain and body burnout. So major symptoms and body burn out, things like energy, mood, gut issues, pain in the body. They are not just physically located in the body, but the brain is also now perpetuating physical symptoms. And the brain can continue perpetuating those physical symptoms.
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Filly
Even off to physical healing is done. This is so classic in someone who has done a lot of gut work. And then you do a test and it's like you got still looks pretty good. Like compared to your original test, but all your symptoms is still there. What's going on? It's because your brain has gotten very good at creating neural pathways that when you eat that food or you smell that thing or you experience stress, whatever that trigger is, your brain sends the signal down to the gut to produce the symptom so that in order to, resolve body burnout symptoms, there must be a rewiring of the brain element to your healing.
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Filly
Okay, so let's talk about the seven mistakes. So mistake number one we just going deep into into the staff and the there's a few mistakes at the end that it kind of like oh yeah I kind of knew that one fit. They're important to reiterate. So mistake number one is it's difficult to rewire an inflamed brain. Now again at the start I said rewiring retraining the brain has become super trendy.
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Filly
Very courses out there. There are books. there are people who have becoming qualified in this. There are people who've been qualified in it for decades. More and more people are becoming aware of the importance of rewiring the brain.
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Chris
Yeah.
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Filly
Which is a great thing. But what can happen is that sometimes people are forgetting that the brain is physical, and they start disregarding the physical component of healing. And we, you know, in our ending body burn out method, we have healing both the physical and the metaphysical parts of your bodies. Your body is not just physical.
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Filly
It's also not just metaphysical. It's one in the same. So we must look at both sides. Brain inflammation, is basically your body's immune response to a perceived threat or an injury within the brain. And this inflammation, can be caused by inflammation in the body. So it literally could be a brain injury where you have had a hit to the head and your brain is inflamed.
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Filly
But more often than not, it's actually inflammation elsewhere in the body. So you've got pathogens in your gut, you've got leaky gut, there's toxins. You're not clearing toxins from your body very effectively. Your detox pathways are out of whack. There's nutrient deficiencies. You're eating anti-inflammatory diet. You're drinking lots of alcohol. These are all sources of inflammation in the brain.
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Filly
Now, some of these things can be reversed by changing the lifestyle. Some of these things may need some functional medicine lab testing to actually identify. Do you have an inflamed brain? We can actually say that on a test day via your urine, which is cool and then if you do, where is the inflammation coming from? And can we reduce that and eliminate that so that as you continue to rewire your brain using more of the metaphysical practices.
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Filly
Oh my gosh, it's going to work so much easier. And so it's going to be so much more effective and also faster because your brain is healthy.
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Filly
Okay. Mistake number two would be that you're not identifying and reprogramming deeper unconscious core beliefs. So as we said before, beliefs of the machine that drive everything. Now I've seen some brain retraining rewiring practices. programs courses also talking to clients who have done different things. And they there has been nothing on deep unconscious core beliefs, which just blows my mind because when you do brain rewiring practices and that might look like guided meditation, it might look like breathwork, it might be nervous system regulation techniques.
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Filly
it might be progressive muscle relaxation, anchoring, somatic tracking, undulation of like sensations in your body. All of these are great. We use a lot of these tools, but if you're not getting into the deep root as to why your system is dysregulated in the first place, and you've created all these dodgy neural pathways, then then your brain rewiring practices can end up being just a Band-Aid.
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Filly
And these dysfunctional core identity beliefs will win every time by sabotaging either your efforts to rewire. It's like you got the best of intentions to do the thing, but you never put aside the time to actually rewire. Or you might be doing the things and ticking off the practices, but because you've got some really deep seated, unconscious core beliefs that you're not good enough, that you're incapable, that you're weak, that you're broken, then that's going to block any long lasting change because your beliefs dictate everything.
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Chris
I love Tony Robbins. I'm his he he's got those three words the the state strategies and stories. And he said, you can you can practice strategies to till the cows come home, you know, you can you can breathe, you can meditate, you can do, do therapy, all that sort of stuff. You can come up with good ideas to, to calm down.
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Chris
But if you're in the wrong state, you'll those strategies will never, never work for you. And then it's really hard to get into the right state if you don't really address those those stories that are that are under underlying those dysfunctional beliefs, those core core beliefs. So, so we like to to look at all three of those things.
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Chris
And, and not discounting any one of those, but the most short cut, if you want to use that way to, to go about this is just like just get straight to the story, just go straight in there, get get that play with that and and then get into the right state. And then you'll be able to choose strategies.
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Chris
And those strategies will actually work for you long term because you're telling yourself effective stories. You don't have dysfunctional patterns of belief and you're able to stay into it. we haven't talked about state today, but but like, you know, you're in a better state. Your nervous system is in a state of regulation. You're calm, you regulated, you connected to the people who are most important to you and to yourself especially.
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Chris
And, and now strategies are awesome.
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Filly
Yeah. Mistake number three. And this really ties in with mistake number three when it comes to rewiring the brain is that you're ignoring deeper trauma and emotional wounds. So this is tied up with beliefs. If traps trauma connected to past distressing events. still stuck in there in your body. And this is often when we created on resourceful, dysfunctional beliefs that we have about ourselves, then that trapped trauma is going to block your ability to get the results when you come to doing rewiring practices and strategies.
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Filly
So it's really hard, I was talking about before, so that rewiring the brain when it comes to chronic health issues is really essentially all about dialling down the amygdala and helping you to get out of fight flight in your nervous system, in your brain. And if you have unprocessed trauma and these broken video tape loops going round and round in your unconscious state as if you're experiencing past events now, you get stuck in chronic fight flight, and it's really hard for the body and mind to surrender into retraining practices and getting to that state that Chris spoke about.
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Filly
If you've got this big balloon of trauma that wants to pop out of the water and you're constantly trying to push it back down again. So as a as a caveat, practices brain rewiring practices, there are some that can actually clear trauma without you actually even knowing or identifying them. But if you're feeling really stuck, you may need to do some deeper trauma work guided by a practitioner, something that we love to do as part of our toolkit of ending body burnout is the trauma therapy called TTP, which is incredibly quick and efficient and very safe at getting clear of like big trauma, but also little trauma that is very stuck in the system.
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Filly
Mistake number four doing not being so this would be you got your list of things that you need to do to rewire your brain. Ticking off the practices is as if it's just a tool or a to do list. But you're not getting into this state of being that Chris spoke about. so a framework that we sometimes, use with people is be, do have if you're just doing brain rewiring, then you're taking what we call a worker approach.
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Filly
So you're doing the thing so you can have the result and be the person who's healthy doesn't quite work, because the more you do, the more there is to do. And the energy in which you're doing the things comes often from a place of force and even fear. The winning approach is be, do, have. So this is where you're being the type of person who already is.
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Filly
Well, you're literally embodying this this woman or this man that thinks the things of a well person that behaves in this way and you're feeling it, you're not just doing it, you're feeling it so you can't want and have at the same time. I can't want this trying to find the camera. I can't, I can't want this texture in my hand.
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Filly
If you're watching YouTube because I already have it, if I put that down, I can't have it because I don't have it. I just want it. It's not in my hand anymore. And that's the same when it comes to being well and healthy. You can't want to be well and have it at the same time. So you literally starting to embody this version of you that is well and healthy, as if you already have it.
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Filly
And the thing is, you already do have it. You actually already have the blueprint of being well and happy. It's almost like you just need to take a few layers. If you cut it off so that you can ground into who you already are.
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Chris
I do have something to say about the the drama triangle. And this we I talk about drama triangle a lot.
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Filly
a couple of episodes. You did?
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Chris
Yeah.
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Filly
The genetic one.
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Chris
and I think a victim feels like they have no choice. They have no agency. They can't do anything about it. and so as you start to rewire your brain, you kind of becoming less of a victim in your doing this, like you're choosing, you're trying. You're putting an effort. Where was I going with this? oh.
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Chris
Being so, so, you've got it. You've got to change the way you you think. You've got to change the way that you perceive where you're at. So, a lot of people get really confused with this. They do have model and they think,
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Chris
I'm always doing like I have to do. I can't not do otherwise. I need to, otherwise I can't live. I've got to I've got to do all the things. So. So how can I focus on being, like, what? What is being even mean? And so I think you've got a you've got to see the state that you want to be and see how you want to, to do the things as you go through your to do list.
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Chris
How do you want to be when you when you're going through that? Like what state of being? What are you focusing on? What your body like? What's your posture like? What's your breathing like? What do you.
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Filly
Smell?
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Chris
What are you.
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Filly
Hearing? What are you tasting?
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Chris
What's your conversations like? Especially in and of yourself? What are you communicating emoting. you know, this is your this is your your state of being. And and when you can when you can choose a state that just matches up with health and, and, not healing, but health, more often than not, you're going to start just bringing that perceived and thought about reality, the reality that's in your head.
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Chris
And you're going to bring that into reality, into the world. and I think that's a really critical part of this ending body burnout journey is seeing and believing and changing your state, and then eventually, over time, just literally become that that person.
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Filly
and that state might be different from one person to a next. Sorry. And mine changes. So I remember when I was really starting to work on this deep, rewiring, shifting stuff, baggage from my unconscious state. My state of being was, like, solely around calm. It's like I need I want to get into the state and the being of calmness these days.
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Filly
And again, it will probably change. But I want joy, joy and peace. And they actually feel like the same thing for me. So something really practical that you could ask yourself is, what is the state of being that your soul desires in order to be well and whole and try to create that every day regularly? when you're engaging in brain rewiring practices, be that person, create that state that has the results, but not even when you're practising the rewiring.
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Filly
Actually do it when you're living, when you're making the dishes, cooking, the cooking, the food, washing the dishes, putting the clothes on the line, driving to work, hanging out with the kids, trying to access that state of being that your soul desires in order to be well and whole.
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Chris
and I think a lot of people forget that, like, they they have this light bulb moments like, oh, I really want to get into this state. A really this state is what's going to match up with, with, getting me to where I want to get to. I want to be this kind of person, be this kind of dad, this kind of mom, this kind of person, human being, blah, blah, blah, husband, wife.
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Chris
but then they it's just like they forget one of the most important words in, the English language, I think it was Gordon B Hinckley said, this, is remember and if if you don't remember the state that you want to be in, you're going to have it's you got Buckley's of changing my friend like you've got to you've got to find a way to remember.
00:29:18:23 - 00:29:43:02
Chris
And so I think, my favourite way just off to the side, in my office here, I've got, a power board and I use post-it notes, and that helps me to stay, in a state of remembrance of of what's most important to me. I also carry with me a, a book every single day, every single place, asking them what that means together.
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Chris
Thanks, Uncle Matt. you'll love that 1 a.m.. I'm going to tag you in this episode. Batman's sticker. Uncle Matt carry you with me every single day, every single location. And and I always write down things about my state of being. And I just think that really helps me. This is a strategy, of course, to help me remember, if I don't fix the stories that I tell myself in my head, then I've got Buckley's of staying in the right state.
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Chris
So story state again. That makes sense.
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Filly
Yeah. All right. Mistake number five. When it comes to rewiring the brain is lack of consistency.
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Chris
Yeah, it kind of what I was talking about.
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Filly
And you probably already know this one. So sporadic efforts will undermine the progress because consistency is the cane forming new neural pathways and breaking old habits and a neural pathways. Basically a habit, even a symptom, is a habit, a thought processes, a thought is a habit. So when you start rewiring the brain and like recreating new pathways, you will constantly feel like a yo yo.
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Filly
Initially, you'll be bouncing from the old way of being to the new way of being, and back and forth and back and forth and back and forth. And that is normal and it's part of the journey. So the more consistent you can be when you're rewiring and that's not just, oh, every day for ten minutes, I'm going to put on this guided rewiring practice and listen to it and everything's going to get better.
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Filly
It's kind of like you're doing the rewiring as you're living. So the more that you are consistent this, the more that you will win, the more that you will create new neural pathways. So another way of thinking about that is the strongest state wins. So as you're bouncing from old to new, old to new, the more consistent that you can get into the new and the strongest state of being in the new way of being, then you will become that person, because the old neural pathways literally just break down and disintegrate.
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Chris
I don't know if this is 100% true, just reading notes here about three weeks to three months. I don't know. I've heard that takes 21 days to build a habit. Like, I'm pretty sure that's been debunked on fact, but, you know, like, let's just say three weeks to three months. this my Batman journal here is like a moleskin pencil.
00:32:10:05 - 00:32:37:08
Chris
You say it. Kaya pocket. Anyway, it's perfect size for a, like a little, little habit habit tracker. You can't see it, but, I like to to keep my streak alive. as many days in a 21 day, three week period of of doing certain stuff, but also, I like to, to just check in with myself.
00:32:37:08 - 00:32:58:19
Chris
Did I, was I this kind of person today? and do I get a tick or do I get a cross? if I can get more ticks than crosses and I'm on the right track and I'm starting to to to lean more into to being the guy that I want to be and leaning away from a dude that I don't want to be.
00:32:58:21 - 00:33:19:22
Filly
and consistency too. like, when we have a new client start working with us, there's they're often shedding all sorts of things. And like, often guilt and shame comes along with and we body burn out and there's guilt and shame that they're not doing enough to get the results. And they're like letting Christian fully down. Never do.
00:33:19:22 - 00:33:42:06
Filly
There's no judgement. I just look at that as like, pattern. Let's look underneath that. but so something that I share with them is your unconscious mind, which is like essentially part of the neural pathways in your brain. And you're breaking everything old, old ways of being down. It's kind of like a little baby, really little baby. It needs you.
00:33:42:10 - 00:34:06:21
Filly
It needs you there consistently, but it doesn't need you to show up and do something like extraordinary and do like this practice or journaling or like a two hour meditation or a breathwork. Doesn't actually need you to do that to get the results, but it does need you to show up daily for yourself. And so. So that's going to look different for different people when it comes to rewiring.
00:34:06:23 - 00:34:22:08
Filly
But the showing up daily is literally, have I shown up for myself today, and have I been consistent with just being aware and reprogramming in the moment?
00:34:22:10 - 00:34:30:00
Filly
Okay. Mistake number six failing to monitor progress Chris talked about his little Batman book.
00:34:30:00 - 00:34:32:07
Chris
In and in in in in in in in in he.
00:34:32:12 - 00:34:35:01
Filly
And it is these little tics and crosses.
00:34:35:02 - 00:35:12:06
Chris
Aboard using post-it notes for for people with ADHD. I think one of the, one of the best ways of, of monitoring your progress, is doing what works and accepting that that might look different day to day, week to week, month to month. And and I've I've found the best success when I don't shame myself into trying to fit into a neurotypical box of of doing the same thing all the time, forever, until you die, you know, like it's I've got my little notebook here.
00:35:12:06 - 00:35:34:03
Chris
I've also got like my pal boy and I use my, my calendar. I just it works for me. Might not work for you. Works for me. Find what works. Monitor your progress. Keep track. I think they have a shelf life. These these things for me. And I know a lot of people with ADHD do feel that way as well.
00:35:34:05 - 00:35:45:12
Filly
Yeah, and monitoring progress will look different for different people. I'm actually not someone I don't think I've ever had something on a on my fridge where I'm like, every day I'm taking something off or crossing it because.
00:35:45:13 - 00:35:46:13
Chris
You know, need to.
00:35:46:15 - 00:36:00:10
Filly
Yeah, I don't I don't need to. The way my brain is oh has been wired. I can always change the way that my brain's wired, but the way like I can just check in with myself. And I know, I know if I've done progress.
00:36:00:12 - 00:36:01:07
Chris
Does that work for you?
00:36:01:08 - 00:36:20:21
Filly
Yeah, it does, but something like monitoring progress for me would be this is the thing that I want to work on, and this is what it would look like when I have it. and then checking in and that might look like a weekly or it might even be. I just know that it's in my head, like I know that I've written that down, or I've even thought that.
00:36:20:21 - 00:36:31:06
Filly
And I check in in my mind so it could look like, write on a piece of paper. Or it could be that it's there with you anyway, and you're reflecting on it.
00:36:31:10 - 00:36:50:07
Chris
In some ways, like Philippa is the most logical and organised and like structured person that you would ever sit. And then you look at her laptop desktop and you'd be like, whoa! And then you look at me and you'd be like, Chris, you're so organised. You're such a, you're a wonder of of structure and a pillar of, of neatness.
00:36:50:09 - 00:36:54:01
Chris
And then, and then you have a look at like my, my cupboard, my.
00:36:54:03 - 00:37:00:09
Filly
Well, yeah. Yours my covets very neat. My desktop, not my cupboard.
00:37:00:11 - 00:37:15:02
Chris
My cupboard emerges into the floor in the corner. I've got I like to, I like to have a, a toss pile, like you throw it into a, into a, into a section of the cupboard before it gets put away. It's been awesome. That's my favourite.
00:37:15:02 - 00:37:26:06
Filly
So here's the funny thing is that when I fold the washing, I'll put mine into my spots. And I love it that you have a top spot because isn't it great? I just tossed yours in the dust pile.
00:37:26:06 - 00:37:35:13
Chris
I love it too, you know, you do understand. You don't even need to fold my clothes, right? Because by the time I cook, okay, we're not put the.
00:37:35:15 - 00:38:02:04
Filly
Okay, so back to monitoring progress. Look, tracking progress, however it works for you is actually rewiring in itself because your brain stops looking for evidence that you're healing and that you're progressing. So whether that's, you have something on a computer, on a piece of paper or you're checking in inside your head, your brain is going to be looking for more and more of what you've done well and evidence of healing.
00:38:02:04 - 00:38:24:10
Filly
And your unconscious mind doesn't know the difference between small and big wins. So which is really great, especially for people who have been running perfectionism patterns that when you celebrate the small wins and even the tiny, minuscule little pieces of evidence that you're healing, even if, you know, you could put a little magnifying glass on that and think, oh, is that evidence?
00:38:24:15 - 00:38:50:19
Filly
So like, yeah, just believe that it's evidence, because then you'll see more of it and you create more of it and your body will follow. another mistake that people make in line with monitoring progress is that sometimes people get fixated on tracking symptoms. That's very it's a very common strategy in like the natural health space functional medicine where it's like okay.
00:38:50:19 - 00:39:13:20
Filly
Yeah. Just track your symptoms with the good intention that we want to say that they're reducing. But when you're focusing on tracking your symptoms to see if you're progressing, your brain will look for more of the symptom and it will create more of the symptom. So you want to rewire your brain to look for what you do want, not what you don't want.
00:39:13:22 - 00:39:39:08
Filly
if you track symptoms you're going to be reinforcing old neural pathways. It's just going to become a self-fulfilling prophecy. The healing is going to take so much longer. And underpinning that is because your brain doesn't understand, know or don't want. If you say, oh, I don't want anxiety. And that's what I'm going to, I'm going to track, I'm going to check to make sure that my anxiety reduces your brain.
00:39:39:08 - 00:40:09:10
Filly
He's anxiety. And it's like, okay, let's do more of this. So instead you want to monitor I want a calm and peaceful mind. And then your brain's going to hear that and it's going to look and create more of that. All right. Last mistake. Mistake number seven not seeking support. So attempting to rewire the brain without support can be challenging.
00:40:09:12 - 00:40:32:22
Filly
a big mistake that I see that I also made to was that when people think about the healing journey and, you know, they think about, okay, maybe my mind needs some help as well. And they reading a lot of stuff. They're listening to podcasts, they're consuming information. What I say is that a lot of people think they can sort their own mind out.
00:40:33:00 - 00:41:09:23
Filly
So I see this with, like old way of practising. I used to just practice standard functional medicine, and then we started adding end the mind metaphysical component, which makes up which is created out ending body pain out method today. But when we were transitioning into let's create a holistic way of healing, what we found were a lot of new clients would see like so much value in hiring me fully a functional medicine practitioner to tell them what test to take, to tell them what supplements to take in to what and what diet they needed to do.
00:41:10:00 - 00:41:26:15
Filly
Because for that person, they felt like that was the missing piece of information that they couldn't see until they had the data on a sheet. It's like, oh, now I can see on my lab test, I have this issue when I need to do this. A lot of people just thought, oh yeah, I know I've got some issues with my mind, but I can, you know, I know that they're there.
00:41:26:15 - 00:41:55:04
Filly
So I'll sort those out. I kind of believe the same thing as well. It's just like, oh, I should be able to sort that part out because like, you know, in my mind all the time, but I don't know what's happening in my body. So I will spend thousands of dollars, a lab test to tell me that. but here's the thing is, it can be really hard to rewire neural pathways of beliefs, of patterns of symptoms, because you've highly likely been reinforcing them for decades.
00:41:55:06 - 00:42:26:12
Filly
And so having someone in your corner to know how to go deeper, to troubleshoot, to give support, to give encouragement, can mean that you are held in the space of transformation so that it actually works. And your nervous system, unconscious mind also hates change. So does your brain. And so when it comes to rewiring your brain and your way of being, all of a sudden your body, your nervous system is going to feel like that's really under dangerous because it's uncertain.
00:42:26:14 - 00:43:02:06
Filly
So you're going to have all sorts of strategies pop up unconsciously to prevent you from doing the work. And, you know, maybe even running away or only doing the work surface level. So it is super useful to have someone in there who has done the work, who knows what it feels like. And another, another benefit of having a support crew is that it's very easy for a trained coach to be able to see your blind spots in your psyche, so your unconscious mind is actually way harder for you to see your blind spots.
00:43:02:06 - 00:43:26:01
Filly
I mentioned the lab test before. It's like, yeah, it might be hard to know if you've got leaky gut or if you have a nutrient deficiency. Run a lab test. But just like blind spots in your unconscious mind, it is very hard for you to see them. There is no test for that. But when you have a well trained and perceptive coach by your side, it's pretty easy for us to see blind spots and patterns and beliefs.
00:43:26:02 - 00:43:30:20
Filly
It's and then making it safe for you to be able to see that to.
00:43:30:22 - 00:43:53:01
Chris
Yeah, being having somebody to to hold you in the, in the in the healing. Jamie and Jamie mentioned this, and then I've heard it a few other times, but here's the first, it's like a, a coach is like a somebody who's like a cast, you know, when you break your arm. So when I'm broken my arm a couple of times, I'll be in a cast.
00:43:53:03 - 00:44:21:14
Chris
And that holds me in the right place so that healing can take in my body. And. And what we enjoy doing is, is having having you or having somebody be in the right place at the right time and, and just just witnessing and experiencing you heal and, and, and that's just it's such a joy and a pleasure.
00:44:21:16 - 00:44:55:18
Chris
and I know that that when I've given my trust and my, put myself into the care of, of a coach, having their input and their insights is just a wonderful thing. And as a guy, I think, I think, stereotypically by most of our clients are female. and as, as a guy, I do know that it is a humbling experience to to have somebody say, oh, I did, you know, this is a, this is a thing that that I notice is going on for you being in that cast.
00:44:55:20 - 00:45:15:01
Chris
is is humbling. And I know, a lot of my friends growing up, a lot of my friends now, as guys, this is, this is a hard thing for us to, to, to do stereotypically. but it's great. It's it's a fantastic experience.
00:45:15:07 - 00:45:41:04
Filly
It is. So speaking of support, our doors to our ending buddy fan out method, which is our six month healing accelerator program. We've won awards with it. It's huge. It was born out of the book, our ending Body Burn Out, which has been on the Today show. By the way. So doors open in three weeks in September. if you're not on the waitlist yet, jump on the waitlist.
00:45:41:04 - 00:46:00:13
Filly
I'll put the link in the show notes. Benefit of that is that you will get access to over $500 worth of early bird bonuses if you join before doors open, and they will be disappearing every day. And also because our program includes one on one consult and coaching, we only have limited spaces, so first dibs.
00:46:00:13 - 00:46:01:07
Chris
Don't miss out.
00:46:01:12 - 00:46:23:19
Filly
Spots. If they if they get filled before the end of launch, we will close early. and also just a reminder to that, in September, in a few weeks, we will be holding our free coaching week. Rewire your brain to heal from body burn out. We're so excited about these sessions. it's going to be awesome. It'll be great.
00:46:23:19 - 00:46:51:04
Filly
Even if you're not interested in working with us. you'll learn so much, and we love to really get in and actually coach people, not just give you more information. So it's going to be really worth your while. and also, if you are thinking about working with us, it's a great way to just see if you resonate with our way of healing and our way of coaching and our approach.
00:46:51:05 - 00:47:10:15
Chris
All right, guys, so take care. Thank you so much for joining us in this episode. We will hopefully catch you soon.
00:47:10:17 - 00:47:20:19
Filly
Thank you so much for listening. We so appreciate you. If you'd like to give us extra smiles, drop us a review and spread the love by sharing this episode.
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Chris
You can also write your own state of burnout and the root cause contributors by taking our Ending Body Burnout assessment on our website. And if you're interested in learning about that group or one on one ending buddy burnout programs, shoot us a DM via Instagram or Facebook. Have the best day ever.
