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Chris
Hello and welcome to the ending Buddy Burnout show. We are your host, Chris and Filly, co-founders of a multi winning functional medicine practice serving busy people with energy, mood and gut issues.
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Filly
Well, business, addictive doing, people pleasing and perfectionism might be the norm. It's not normal and it's a major contributor to health issues.
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Chris
Our goal with this show is to give you a holistic root root cause approach to healing your body so that you don't have to continue doctor or diet hopping or popping a gazillion supplements hoping something might stick.
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Filly
So get ready to heal your body. Get your spark back deeply, connect with yourself, and step into the life of your dreams.
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Chris
Let's dive in.
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Chris
Okay, welcome to this episode of the Anybody Burnout show. Today we've got an interesting one. Phil is going to be talking to you guys about her boobs. So this is gonna be this is going to be interesting. I'm interested to to know more about Filly's boobs. So Filly let's let's chat about this okay.
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Filly
When we were talking about before we press record and Chris is like this is how I'm going to start it. I had a little memory pop up in my head that I'm going to quickly share first, because it's kind of funny. When we first started doing, I don't know if you remember this, you will when I tell you.
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Chris
Oh, I know, I know, you know what?
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Filly
Like when we first started doing like videos and we're getting like kind of professional in our business and like it's like, okay, this is how you show up. We actually had a speaking coach and she was in the media, so I can't even remember her name. She was pretty cool. She was funny. We had a session with us and she's like, Filly, you need to smile.
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Filly
Your face is deadpan and I'm like, okay. And so any time, for a very long time before we pressed record, Chris would say, just boom.
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Chris
I would say boobs.
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Filly
Boobs.
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Chris
Why?
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Filly
Well, the story is this is many, many years ago. I put some things on Buy and Sell or Chris did actually. And the place that we used to live in many, many years ago, we had only one. There was a heater that was right at the back door of our house that had windows, clear windows. Hardly anyone ever came to the back door and knocked on the door without us, you know, expecting anyone to be there one day.
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Filly
I'm there after shower, fully naked in front of this heater right at the back door. And I see this man walking.
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Filly
Up, I'm about to knock on the door.
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Filly
And like literally he was about a metre away. So this is our story. So any time you see my face on camera and I've got a big smile, it fills out of his session. It's because I'm thinking of that really embarrassing moment that occurred when I was like, totally naked. And this random guy who came to buy some exercise equipment off Chris saw my boobs and everything else.
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Chris
Boobies.
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Filly
Okay, so this is a personal episode today. Personally or personally? Specifically to me. Chris's coming along for the ride because he likes to talk about boobs. My boobs.
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Chris
I like to look and feel his boobs. Okay.
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Filly
Anyway, so I wanted to say sorry.
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Chris
And.
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Filly
Sorry. Sorry, mom, I wanted I wanted to share.
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Chris
She gets it from you.
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Filly
But, Okay, this is going to be serious. We're going to, like, we are going to get serious here because it's a personal story of how I recently applied the metaphysical side of healing that we take our clients through in sort out ending body burn out method for our clients or past clients that are listening to this. You will know what we're talking about.
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Filly
This is spark. So how I personally applied spark to something that I went through recently, and I get very personal about my boobs, as well as a hidden belief about being a weirdo that was manifesting in hormonal symptoms. So I hope that you get not just entertainment, but also that you get a really good insight. So for our clients and past clients that listen to this, they really cool insight in terms of how do you apply the metaphysical spark side of healing ongoing for the rest of your life?
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Filly
And if you haven't worked with us, if you haven't done our ending body burn out method, and you have been a listener for a while, this will be really great too, in terms of like, oh, that's what they mean when they're talking about metaphysical healing. Oh, that's what it actually looks like. And oh my gosh, these are the results that can come when you deeply listen and connect with yourself.
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Filly
So I'm going to start off with talking a bit about my female hormone history. So in high school I was a late bloomer. I didn't get my period until I was in college. So in Tasmania, we do high school from grade 7 to 10, and then college is 11 and 12. So I was in college, I was like 17 years old when I got my period, which had pros and cons.
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Filly
The pro was that I didn't have a beard. And then when I did get my period, I really only got it every 4 to 6 months, and I had a lot of hormonal acne and I got some PMS. But, you know, I only go to period like 2 or 3 times a year. So that was kind of a pro at the time.
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Filly
I'll talk about the cons later on. But definitely a con came along when, Chris and I got together. We got married, a few years into our marriage. We're like, okay, let's start having kids. And, we had infertility issues. So I tried for I think it was like two years and nothing had happened. We were trying we were trying regularly.
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Filly
Chris saw a lot of the foods in.
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Chris
Interesting.
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Filly
And so anyway, ended up going to the doctor. Back then, I had no, no idea about natural medicine. I had a friend, that was all, like into natural paths and energy healing. And she's like, you need to go see a natural path. And I'm like, what even is that? Now I'm going to go to the doctor because they know three things.
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Filly
So they did a lot of tests. I was diagnosed with PCOS, so I wasn't ovulating, which made a lot of sense in terms of why we weren't falling pregnant. Again, I just went down the medical route, ended up having the drug Clomid to help me ovulate, got pregnant, had a miscarriage, and then got pregnant maybe about 4 or 5 months after that.
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Filly
So after kids my cycle got a bit better, but it was still long. It was like 40 to 50 days. I continued to struggle with PMS, after kids. I was so emotional, PMS, emotional, like I would literally cry it. I don't even know if this TV show still runs, but it was ground for so where like the team would come and, make a redo someone's backyard.
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Filly
And I remember just crying at the end of those like, reality TV shows like home like Happy, but Sad. And I didn't really even know what emotion I was experiencing. I was just crying, sleep issues, pimples and like, even like little black hairs growing on my chin. Then I came to discover functional medicine. So I and this was the first time that I started seeing changes as I started testing and supporting the body systems with supplements and, like healing diets, the big key areas that it helps me in my female hormone journey was definitely adrenal and sex hormone support.
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Filly
So I was in adrenal fatigue, but I also had really low progesterone, and detox work was really important to. But I still had to stay on herbs and have some sort of external source inside taken inside my body to continue having a regular cycle in very little PMS symptoms. So, you know, that's already like, there's still something going on underneath the surface.
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Filly
But I was sort of managing it later on. I realised then that the baggage in my unconscious mind was making a huge impact or having a huge impact on my hormones. And it wasn't until I started doing the deeper metaphysical root cause work that my hormones became more regulated and, like I could actually regulate them on my own without, you know, obviously still living a healthy lifestyle.
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Filly
But it wasn't like I was dependent on an outward supplements in order for my hormones to be regulated. Okay. So then, okay, so all of that was happening over the years, and it was about 4 or 6 months ago, I started having some hormonal symptoms popping up and, even before then. So, even before then, my hormones will it will show up as an uncle, message from my unconscious mind and that I now never see it as like, oh, no, something physical has gone out of whack.
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Filly
Maybe I need to, I don't know, like detox better or something. It's always something deeper. There's always something deeper that my body's trying to get my attention for. Because my hormones are very connected to the nervous system, or everyone's school minds are connected to the nervous system in stress. So if I break rapport with myself or I'm moving to a new level of growth and things feel uncertain and my nervous systems kind of freaking out, well, then they can then push those hormones will reduce the progesterone again.
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Filly
So so usually the warning signals will be like my sleep isn't as good, especially leading up to my period. And and also what I found is those little warning signals were never resolved by just doing more supplements. It was actually having a deep conversation with myself and taking action based on what showed up that needed addressing. So about 4 to 6 months ago, I noticed that my sleep was getting disrupted leading up to my period, and I was getting really sore boobs like.
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Filly
And this is happening over like several cycles. And, you know, if it's one cycle, I'm like, oh, that's interesting. But it when it becomes a pattern, it's like, oh, there's something going on that needs my attention, but my boobs are so sore. Like to the point where our youngest daughter loves cuddles and she's kind of like aggressive with her cuddles, too.
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Filly
Like, she'll she'll get in there.
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Chris
She she loves jujitsu. If my jujitsu coach mat is listening to this. So anything that you've taught me at that, if my daughter.
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Filly
Wants to listen to a podcast without boobs.
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Chris
This would be really interesting. I wonder if she's gonna send me a message. Anyway, I love to do jujitsu with my youngest daughter. She's really good at it. Anyway, so I think she. She misses the, the the filter. It's like, is this a dad? Dad like affection? Wrestle, cuddle, bars. Headlocks. Or is this a mum cuddle?
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Filly
I think it's very different. Well, I think it's a little bit of an anxious kind of attachment thing too sometimes. Or it's just like, I have to cuddle you really hard so that you have all my attention or. Or I have all of your attention.
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Chris
She has secret cuddle, secret kisses with with us. Like she's got a, you know, like you can have secret handshake with someone, like, there's a pattern. She'll she'll go kiss, kiss cat, tap, tap tap, fist bump, random things, big hug. And yes, she gets into it.
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Filly
Yeah. So anyway, I knew my boobs are becoming an issue because I literally couldn't cuddle her anymore. Like I was pushing her away. Not because I didn't want to cuddle her back, but because my boobs are in pain. And I also noticed. So they saw boobs. The sleep was getting disrupted and also noticed that I was getting a bit dysregulated emotionally leading up to the period over several cycles, to the point where I'm like, oh, patterns are coming back.
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Filly
Oh, like, why do I feel like this is urgency and need to like, overdo and do a lot of things? Moment the period came, it's like, oh, like, feelings back. And a little bit of a period headache. Now, it wasn't bad enough that I'm like, oh my gosh, is something wrong with me? It was just like these symptoms were clearly there and, they needed my attention.
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Filly
So my brain, because because my initial way of trying to heal my body when I was in like the depths of body van out was always physical, like my I was always like, oh, I'm feeling it physically. There must be a physical issue or it has to be solved physically. So even to this day, when I have a little signals pop up, my brain will immediately go to the physical.
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Filly
I'm like, oh, I'm 40 now. Perimenopause. Oh no. Am I going, oh no, am I going to very, very mono and my hormones out of whack. But I've created a relationship with myself for long enough now that I know better, even if it if it even if it is perimenopause. Even if my hormones are changing because I'm going into menopause at some point in my life, in the future, I believe in every I believe that I, as well as every woman, has the ability and power to move into menopause symptom free.
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Filly
So it's like, yeah, cool. If it is or if it isn't, I don't care. I know that I can, I can live my life with beautiful, balanced hormones. So I started becoming inquisitive. What was going on beneath the surface? I actually just like full on skipped. Like I didn't even bother doing any lab testing because I know that that when these acute things pop off and they're more subtle, they're very easily solved from a metaphysical point of view, just in the same way that we coach and teach our clients the same thing as well.
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Filly
You don't have to continue doing tests and supplements and restricted diets for the rest of your life. Yes, that's important for like the deeper physical healing that our clients go through when they do our method. But after that, you are your own self healer. You have total ability and capacity to heal yourself, especially when you can listen to the small things that start popping up before they become big things.
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Filly
So anyway, okay, so I threw a few months ago, I was preparing for a group call, which is all about soulmates, ization, and childhood. So that's essentially where in your childhood you can have past distressing events occur and they haven't been processed properly. And essentially they get blocked as blocked energy or emotion and they get stored in the body.
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Filly
And then this blocked energy can show up as physical symptoms. So as I was preparing for this workshop for our clients in of method, I prepared a symptom. An inner child somatic guided meditation process to help our clients inside the method, into into their childhood through a symptom to gather more information and hopefully clear it. So I'm like, okay, cool.
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Filly
I love to practice what I preach. So as I was preparing for this, my boobs are sore and I'm like, you know what? I'm going to do this for myself right now. And the inner child process, which, by the way, I'll put in the show notes because so many clients when if Chris and I mention a process or a coaching framework, I call something inside the method, they're always like, which one was that?
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Filly
Can you send me the link? So I'm going to put any links that I mentioned in the show notes. It's only accessible to clients inside the method, but this is helpful for those who have access to it. So anyway, I went back to my childhood. Close my eyes. I entered this process through my soul beads and my uterus.
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Filly
And I ended up in teenage years and I ended up, in a memory where I was sitting in high school feeling really left out because all my other friends were always talking about their periods, and I still didn't have mine. So remember, I didn't get my period until 17. So like all through high school, they'd be like, oh my gosh, I just got my period.
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Filly
Oh, I've got my period now. Now these conversations weren't like light and happy and butterflies. Most of my friends didn't like it, but I still felt left out. I felt like there was something wrong with me, like I wasn't womanly or girly enough to get my period. So during the process, I did some clearing and sort of some integration with my inner child and my inner eye in a teenage filly.
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Filly
And I had a really lovely experience and, came out of that, did the workshop. But as the weeks continued, I this memory kept surfacing to my mind and it's like, okay, again, pattern, pattern detected. Why are you still here? Oh, there must be something still unresolved here. And then I was just curious. I'm like, okay, let's see what happens in my next cycle.
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Filly
And my next cycle came around and I still had super sore boobs. So I knew that there was more work to be done. Doing just one inner child process wasn't going to be enough to solve this, which I think is a really important teaching for for listeners as well, that you might have tried some things and maybe you gave it a little crack for, I don't know, a month or you did a process and you're like, oh, nothing happened.
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Filly
Like, like this stuff is just woohoo! This doesn't work. Give me the the science scientific stuff that I can see on a lab test. And then I'll take the supplement. But the thing.
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Chris
With, well, sometimes it gets worse.
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Filly
You know, sometimes I get it. Yeah.
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Chris
Actually, the short term, like, happens enough times that it's it's, it's interesting to note.
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Filly
Do you mean like, when someone does more of a metaphysical type shifting process?
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Chris
Yeah. And especially when, when they stop managing and masking and then all of a sudden it's just like, whoa, I realise why I was taking the caffeine or taking the painkillers or, taking the medicinal marijuana or why I was doing the things to mask in the manage and Medicaid. Because now I feel rubbish.
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Filly
Yeah, that's really interesting. Yeah. And then sometimes two things get worse after one. One thing, one more metaphysical process. Well, I mean, it's clear that the work isn't done yet. And so it's like you've opened the box, but then it's like, you nervous system, unconscious mind can kind of start freaking out to where it's just like, whoa, can you handle this?
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Filly
And like, it's like, And so it can create uncertainty in your system.
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Chris
So we double down at that point, which is, I think, what you're about to talk about, like we're we won't run away and we'll go, we'll be like, yeah, cool, awesome. All right.
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Filly
Yeah, I actually say that is awesome. Data. This like this is where you need to go. Yeah.
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Chris
Obstacle is the.
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Filly
Way. Obstacle is the way. Okay, so I didn't have an adverse reaction. I actually had a lovely experience. But then like nothing budged physically for me. And this memory continued to pop up. So it's like, okay, cool, some work needs to be done. Now also, for any clients listening who who understand the spark process and the way that we work is that sometimes things need to be done more thoroughly.
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Filly
And sometimes people get really frustrated about that. They're like, oh, I thought I only had to like, do this healing once or do these like spark process once and then everything would be okay. But the thing is, is that this work continues until the day you die and maybe even after because when the metaphysical work is communication with self work.
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Filly
And so if you stop communicating with yourself, that's where you end up in body burnout again. So and sometimes the conversation can be quick and subtle and you know, kind of like surface level. And it solves the issue. But most of the time a deeper conversation must be had with self. So I got serious practice what I preach embodied coach.
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Filly
And I'm like, okay, I'm going to start out our spot process again and ask. Thought process contains three main parts. So the first part is reckoning the second party's nervous system regulation, rewiring reprogramming and the third parties and purposeful living. And I'll talk about these three parts in terms of what I did. So for the reckoning part, it's like, okay, what are the patterns that are showing up?
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Filly
Okay, I've got these hormone stuff showing up, I've got the sore boobs, I'm feeling PMS emotional. Well triggered. I'm, I'm, my sleep's a little bit off. I'm also noticing, I noticed that there were some patterns of conversations where I felt triggered as well with different people, different situation. But the trigger in the feeling was still there, as if I had to prove or defend myself.
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Filly
And my body had a somatic response. So I got clear and honest on okay, what dysfunctional patterns are showing up that, that I don't want anymore, that are coming up as pain points, but also, messages from the deepest part of myself. Then with that daughter, it's like, let's go back into the past in because there is often an imprint from the past that hasn't yet been fully resolved or upgraded, or sometimes there might be past experiences that you have worked on and it shifted, but there's now a different nuance to it.
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Filly
So anyway, the past experience was like this memory that kept repeating again and again about being back at high school, feeling left out. And then I just started asking more questions around that. So what does it mean about me feeling left out? I was feeling left out all the time. Initially I thought, oh, I think it's I'm unlikeable because that is how I felt like if I wasn't cool and part of the cool girl crowd, then they'd kick me out.
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Filly
Is it something around? I'm unlikeable and I mute over this for a week or so, but it didn't quite feel right in terms of like a deeper root belief that needed to be reviewed and upgraded and cleared. And so then I got serious. I'm like, okay, I still haven't quite got there. So I pulled out my journal and I just read, wrote out a lot of stuff, and I started connecting back to the dysfunctional patterns that was showing up.
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Filly
So I dug deep, I got honest, I shine a lot of sun, shone a lot on my blind spots. I got honest with myself and all these little subtle patterns that were playing out, and I ended up landing on I'm a weirdo. It actually wasn't that I was unlikeable. There was actually a belief, a teenage Filly belief, that I'm a weirdo.
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Filly
And I got off to probably writing three pages of, like, just looking at the patterns. And what does this mean and what does this mean? And what does this mean about me? And I knew that I'd hit the right belief that needed reviewing, upgrading, and clearing because there was a sense of being heard by myself. Like semantically, I felt it in my body.
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Filly
It was right before bed and I remember saying thank you to myself. Thank you for trusting me enough to allow me to know this. And I had a cry, and I had a cry for both myself, but also for teenage Filly, because I actually felt her hurt again. There was there was an emotional charge still there around the teenage years.
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Filly
And what was what was interesting to me was that the I'm a weirdo actually had less to do with my hormones and not getting my period, and it had more to do with that. I was so petrified as a teenager in high school that my friends would find out that I went to church, and then they would bully and laugh and ridicule me, and that they would throw me out of the tribe.
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Filly
So that's like, that's where the deeper we'd our stuff came, came about that I accused myself of being a weirdo because I went to church, and then I was constantly, like trying to hide it, like, like literally hide the truth of me. To my friends. I only revealed parts of me to them. And it so happened that this period, this cycle, this whole marine thing went hand in hand with that as well.
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Filly
And so it had less to do with feeling left out because of a period, and it had more to do with this deeper fear of being a weirdo and being found out that I was weird.
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Chris
Does a clear I am accusation. It's like a dirty secret, nasty thing that you said to yourself, hey, like I am a weirdo, you know, like this was wasn't, as far as what you've just said, that like that wasn't something that your friends said, like, you weirdo. Like, this is something that you've,
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Filly
It was total in my head. In fact, I was so clever at hiding these that I was like, Mrs. Cool. I was, like, in the popular crowd, you know, with some awards at the end of high school, I think I won the best bum award.
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Chris
Awesome.
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Filly
Oh, that's interesting. Boobs and bum. Like. Wow. Okay, and there was another one. Maybe it was my boyfriend that always within high school that I hardly ever spoke to. It's like they're like they're the most likely to get married or like they're so cool. Ben Reynolds, if you're listening to this, that is, you.
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Chris
Know, interesting.
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Filly
So. Yeah. So anyway, so there was there was a lot of stuff. And I remember in high school this was and this was like a real fear. This was a any time I would turn up on a Monday morning and all my friends were talking about what they did on the weekend, my heart would be pounding, like I had a very visceral physical sensations in my body where I was like, so scared.
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Filly
I'm like, today's the day that I'm going to be found out that I went to church yesterday on a Sunday, and then I'm going to get kicked out from the cool crowd, and I'm going to have no friends and everyone's going to laugh at me and I'm like, going to die for the is going to eat me. And there was one, one time that a girl in the year above me, she was quite nasty and she found out and she told some of my friends that were boys and I was petrified.
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Filly
Like, I remember that day. I was like frozen. So I'm sharing the intensity of this because this is the sort of stuff that can get stuck in the body that even as a rational adult, I think back to that time now and I'm like, oh, you, you poor little girl. Like they would have loved you regardless. And even if some didn't and some thought you were weird, like, whatever, doesn't matter.
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Filly
But for that teenage girl that had very. And I was too scared to even, like, talk about this with my family because then I'd feel like I'd betray them as well. It's almost like, oh, hang on, you think you're weird because you're like part of our family? I'm like, no, but I love you. So it was like this constant to and fro anyway, so I uncovered that and then I gave myself an effective apology that not all at the same time.
00:28:47:19 - 00:29:20:17
Filly
What did I do? Why did I do it? Deep empathy for the younger teenage fully and also for myself. The patterns it created and a believable planet wouldn't happen again. And then I got clear on well, what do I want now? So that's this is still part of reckoning. So it's like, okay, I don't want this anymore. I don't want so boobs and sleepless nights and getting triggered in certain conversations where I felt like I was going to be found out as being a weirdo and chucked out of the tribe.
00:29:20:19 - 00:29:42:04
Filly
What do I want instead? Well, I want healthy, balanced hormones. I want to feel balanced in my luteal phase. I want to have like lovely progesterone, and I want to move into perimenopause, season with ease and grace into my next clean chapter. And then like all the life stuff that was showing up, is little things as well.
00:29:42:04 - 00:30:03:19
Filly
Like, I want to be an embodied coach. I don't want to shy away from hard conversations. I want to create certainty for clients and and help them feel and know that their issues are totally solvable. It's easy. It's simple. I want to grow my confidence with, my business with confidence and step into new circles. I want connected, loving relationships with my husband and my children.
00:30:03:21 - 00:30:20:02
Filly
So this is rewiring the brain or focusing the brain towards what you do want, not what you don't want anymore. So this is kind of like finishing off what we call the reckoning phase.
00:30:20:04 - 00:30:46:16
Filly
And then with all of the data, all the bits and pieces and now having having a clear vision of what you do want, this is where we start regulating, rewiring and reprogramming. And we have a really big focus in our method where it's like, okay, well, first and foremost, let's regulate this deepest root belief that is important for you to clear right now.
00:30:46:18 - 00:31:10:13
Filly
And so for me, because I've done this many times, when I saw this, I was like, oh, yeah, now I've seen it. I'm a weirdo. I can I see where it's coming from? I can clear this fast because I'm like really good at this work. Now I can clear it fast. And the weirdest thing happened that that next day I was so dysregulated.
00:31:10:14 - 00:31:30:07
Filly
I don't remember if you remember this, Chris, but I can't remember what happened. It was in the afternoon, the kids got home and I screamed at our youngest child. I can't remember what it was, but I was making dinner. I was trying to make something that was like a to raise, cut a recipe. And there were like lots of elements to it.
00:31:30:07 - 00:31:51:04
Filly
And I was in the kitchen for a long time. And then Elsie wanted me to cut an orange or something, and I just screamed like a monster. Hey, I was like, whoa, what the heck is going on? I've just dug up all of this and I'm going to clear it first. And I actually feel worse. So actually, the worst thing started happening.
00:31:51:05 - 00:32:20:08
Filly
But again, it was almost like, okay, cool. If I just look at this with curiosity, what's happening here? I need to go a bit deeper. I'm not going to do this cheaply. I thought I could do it fast, actually. Maybe I can do it fast, but not cheaply. And so I spent the next week or two just really starting to viscerally reprogramme the belief in body declarations, catching myself in like little subtle moments where it's like, oh no, I don't believe that anymore.
00:32:20:10 - 00:32:42:15
Filly
Oh no, I don't believe that anymore. Changing my behaviour. And then about a week or two later, we did an inner child breathwork session with one of our guests inside our method. Gilad. Amazing. So many clients. We're just like sharing stories of like, what came out of that? So cool. But it was pretty intense. So we did, it's called Hola Tropic Breathing.
00:32:42:15 - 00:32:48:18
Filly
Hey, so you kind of like. It's quite invigorating. Intense breathing.
00:32:48:20 - 00:32:51:00
Chris
Getting high in your own supply. Pretty much getting.
00:32:51:00 - 00:33:28:19
Filly
High on your own supply, opening off all your senses. And then Gilad flipped us into a in a child meditation. And as soon as we flipped into that, I went. I was there like, immediately I was back at high school with my teenage self and, and I had a chat with her and at the end of that session, I came out with this overwhelming new belief that was like, so visceral that I could feel that it had changed in my unconscious mind that I'd gone from being a weirdo to I'm a ray of sunshine, like I'm a ray of sunshine.
00:33:28:19 - 00:33:55:05
Filly
And I started seeing it everywhere, like in my body. I felt it like love and light and butterflies and sunshine in my body. But I also started seeing it in, relationships, especially when things weren't doing so well, like when we had little fights. I'm like, hang on, if I'm a ray of sunshine. I've just portrayed myself like a ray of sunshine is actually like an an awesome wife.
00:33:55:07 - 00:34:05:06
Filly
And so but my brain moved towards that rather than away from it. And then evening coaching too. I'm like, I'm a ray of sunshine. People are like.
00:34:05:08 - 00:34:05:10
Filly
I.
00:34:05:13 - 00:34:24:09
Filly
Can't come. People are so lucky to to speak with me today. I can't wait to have these conversations. And I also saw I'm a ray of sunshine as. And I also don't shy away from hard conversations because I've got the sun now I've got the sun and I'm going to shine it on your blind spots and it's going to be great.
00:34:24:11 - 00:34:46:14
Filly
It's going to be great. She's going to get more of what you want. So it was pretty phenomenal, actually. Cleared really fast. And I knew things had changed because I was being different. I was experiencing different things. And then my next period came along. And it was very interesting. I was curious to see what was happening. I wasn't attached to anything but far out.
00:34:46:14 - 00:35:07:09
Filly
My boobs were like way better. They were still a tad still a tad sore. So there was still like still a little bit of information that it's like all this still something that needs to be done. But like going from 100% to, I'd probably say like 10%. So amazing. My sleep was great, had no sleep issues, my emotions were a lot more regulated.
00:35:07:11 - 00:35:17:19
Filly
And when the boobs showed up as, oh.
00:35:17:21 - 00:35:44:12
Filly
And and when the boobs showed up a little bit sore, I was accessing different things that we teach our clients to. So sensations is still hanging around. Safety anchor is amazing. Where you actually create, symbolically, the feeling of safety in your body. And every time I did that, touch my chest, light and love went from the top of my chest to the bottom of my boobs and like, literally just evaporated.
00:35:44:12 - 00:36:15:08
Filly
Any uncomfortable sensation from my boobs also used words whopping like, oh my boobs, they're less calm today. Let's balance today and yes, I was stacking on a lot of those those processes that we teach our clients. So anyway, all of that was great. The fact that the boobs were still a little bit sold like, we teach our clients that the signals should be off.
00:36:15:08 - 00:36:46:08
Filly
So if you've done this work that you have a symptom show off again. And it's a message from the unconscious mind when you take action on whatever you need to do in order to realign with self again and build rapport with self, that signal should switch off. So, this will be for a podcast for another day, but there was some data that showed up, maybe like a few days later after all of this, because this is while we were in Debbie, where Chris and I had a pretty big fight.
00:36:46:10 - 00:37:07:07
Filly
It was a big one. It was a doozy. And it was just again. So this is now where I'm going into purposeful living. So this is a third part, the last part of what we call spark. And it's like, great. So you've done all this lovely work inside of yourself and things are changing. How how about we live on purpose now?
00:37:07:08 - 00:37:32:16
Filly
And that also means that your work life is on purpose and your marriage is on purpose, and your parenting is on purpose, and everything outside of you is on purpose and in alignment. So we had a little tiff, which again, we'll probably share next month because I feel like there's lots of learnings that can come from that. And and yeah, that was like a betrayal of self.
00:37:32:16 - 00:37:47:12
Filly
So I was still out of alignment with my new belief that I'm a ray of sunshine, because if I'm a ray of sunshine, then why is my most important relationship? Why is that gone sour? Why have I allowed that to happen? What's going on here?
00:37:47:14 - 00:37:51:17
Chris
You know, like the ray of sunshine turned into a Death Star.
00:37:51:17 - 00:38:16:05
Filly
Ray turning to a thunderstorm. And so? So that was cool. But because I had uplevel, then it meant that. Okay, well, like, our relationship needs to up level two, because that's kind of a little bit of out of alignment now based on who I want to be and who I have become. And, where I'm heading in my life.
00:38:16:07 - 00:38:45:17
Filly
And so anyway, we've started having, some breaking down the game around our marriage, which is a big part of purposeful living. Like, what's the game that you want to play in the important areas in your life, and how are you going to make that happen? Anyway, more on that later. I do fine. I don't know if you've noticed this, but I do find that that clients who get amazing results in the method go all the way.
00:38:45:19 - 00:39:05:13
Filly
Like there's a lot of there's a tendency for people to kind of stop it after nervous system regulation. They're like, oh, that was lovely. I feel good. But then they're not integrating and taking action in their outside life and creating the life of their dreams. I find that I find that, like every part of our process is essential.
00:39:05:15 - 00:39:21:11
Filly
And if the last part is missed, then it's kind of like it's do you break rapport again? Because it's like this is all out of alignment still, even though I've done the work on myself, but I'm not now being the leader to create change in my marriage or in my work or in my business.
00:39:21:13 - 00:39:43:21
Chris
Yeah. And I actually find so there's the the three friction points, I guess you could say where people run away would be at the end of every phase, like at the end of reckoning, people don't lean into when people have that friction, they might not be leaning into regulating themselves that well.
00:39:43:21 - 00:39:51:22
Filly
Yeah, it's kind of like the adrenaline of like finding the root cause and the monster under the bed and oh my gosh, I see it now. Yeah. And then it's like, okay.
00:39:51:22 - 00:40:02:22
Chris
But I don't want to do anything about it, but I don't want to do anything. And then and then it's like, okay. And the next one is like, what you said, after nervous system regulation, and not leaning into purposeful living.
00:40:03:04 - 00:40:13:10
Filly
Which is really upgrading from child to adult, it's like, oh yeah, but oh, I don't want to demand change in my marriage now because that won't like on and I might pay people off.
00:40:13:12 - 00:40:27:22
Chris
And then there's after no system is regulated after we've done that. And then it's like at the end of purposeful living, when you uplevel and the new problem comes out, it's like.
00:40:28:00 - 00:40:38:15
Filly
Oh, there can be resistance to doing it all over again. Have I done this or no. Do I have to do this again? This sucks. This doesn't work. Okay, I'll go. Practitioner okay. So now.
00:40:38:17 - 00:40:39:10
Chris
Yeah.
00:40:39:12 - 00:40:45:14
Filly
So it's it's rather than becoming the adult of you and your own self-healing self regulator.
00:40:45:16 - 00:41:20:17
Chris
It's fascinating breaking it down and seeing it from, from our perspective. Like noticing where these, these friction points happened. I think it's it's awesome. Having that data available to us, we're always changing. How? Because we know what you have to be silly to, to not notice these things pop up as patterns in people. So we're constantly trying to, to change our strategy for, for helping people to, to change this state in this stories.
00:41:20:17 - 00:41:24:03
Chris
It's and how we deliver this out to people. So it's it's interesting.
00:41:24:06 - 00:41:57:23
Filly
Yeah. So hopefully that you got some like practical things or little insights for your own journey and also to if you like. Oh wow J this is day like this. Healing goes beyond just doing a lab and taking a supplement, which we also do because it up levels fast, tracks the healing. But if if you're being pulled to a deeper way of working on your health because the surface level bandaid approach is just haven't been working for you, not until January.
00:41:57:23 - 00:42:15:12
Filly
So it's still a little late to go, but our doors do open again to our ending body burn out method program, which is a six month program in January. And again in the show notes, I'll pop a link to our waitlist, which you're very welcome to pop your name down. You'll be the first to notify be notified when doors do open.
00:42:15:14 - 00:42:31:00
Filly
You'll also get early Bird access as well, which means that you get first dibs on spots. We only have limited spaces because our program includes one on one support, and you also get $500 worth of early bird bonuses if you join up before the doors officially open in January.
00:42:31:02 - 00:42:38:23
Chris
Almost all of the time in most recent times, our our spots have filled up. So if you're not on the waiting list, you're probably going to miss out again.
00:42:38:23 - 00:43:01:01
Filly
Yeah, by the time the doors of close where we're maxed. Yeah. And if you can't wait until January and you really want to start the process, we do have a connect the dots initial console, which is the first step in our method, that you can book into. I'll put pop the link there. I think there might be some spots available in November and some in December.
00:43:01:03 - 00:43:07:11
Filly
But yeah, check that out and looking forward to catching up if you choose to.
00:43:07:13 - 00:43:12:19
Chris
Thanks, guys.
00:43:12:21 - 00:43:22:23
Filly
Thank you so much for listening. We so appreciate you. If you'd like to give us extra smiles, drop us a review and spread the love by sharing this episode.
00:43:23:01 - 00:43:55:00
Chris
You can also write your own state of burnout and the root cause contributors by taking our Ending Body Burnout assessment on our website. And if you're interested in learning about our group or one on one ending buddy burnout programs, shoot us a DM via Instagram or Facebook. Have the best day ever.
00:43:55:02 - 00:43:55:08
Chris
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